Sometimes I feel like people want me to apologise for being who I am. Sometimes I feel like people would rather me keep my mouth shut rather than say what I think. Sometimes, I feel like people don’t like me because of who I am.
I have gotten to a point in life where I just do not care what other people think. I honestly think that this is something that has come more and more with age. I know I was never like I am now as a teenager or even in my early ’20s.
I am quite outspoken and not everyone likes that, even my husband. He is forever telling me that maybe I should try being a bit less blunt and that I should be a bit more tactful. I say I’m being honest. Part of people’s ‘problems’ with me is the way that I say things. Yes, I am quite blunt at times and I know that I can come across in the wrong way. It’s just how I am. My mother in law thinks that I was rude to her earlier in the year. It wasn’t rudeness, it was just the way I speak. If I had been rude, she really would have known about it.
I don’t have the time or the energy to go pussyfooting around people’s feelings. If I don’t agree with someone or something then I’m likely to tell them so. If I’m having a shit day, I speak like I’m in a bad mood. I won’t sit around and pretend to be happy or cheerful when I’m not. The only exception is when I’m at work because that would be unprofessional!I may sound like a spoiled child here but also, if I don’t want to do something or go somewhere, I won’t.
I don’t think I should have to hide who I really am, or give people a nicer, more careful version of myself. I just think that if you have a problem with the way I am, and who I am, then that is your problem, not mine. I won’t lie about my feelings or opinions just to make someone else happy, not even my husband. If that makes me mean or rude or obnoxious then so be it.
Life is too short to pretend to be someone you’re not.
Are you like me or the opposite?
I think that there are time in life when you have to moderate your behaviour. you don’t know what stresses etc people have in their life. being so blunt can be quite hard for people to manage and respond to.
I note you say your behaviour is different in work as that would be unprofessional but then when your MIL thinks you were rude you say you weren’t. Maybe your bluntness can appear rude? I’m all for being real about who you are but equally there’s nothing wrong about being sensitive to other people too
I do understand that sometimes bluntness can come across as rude. I just tend to say whatever is on my mind exactly how I think things
The thing about all of this is you need to be able to take what you give. If you speak your mind to others without thinking or caring about their feelings then i suppose thats what should be expected in return. I always consider what i would find acceptable for myself, or for my children, and try to modify my behaviour accordingly. It is also a good idea to be nice to inlaws for the sake of the husband of course.
You should never apologize for being yourself, being outspoken is a great trait to have. I am outspoken myself and am sometimes vilified for it but I would never change who I am to please the haters.
I think I’m like you to an extent but at the same time I’m very over sensitive lol x
I think it’s great that you are true to yourself and a sign of true confidence. I try to be honest too but sometimes tact is required so as not to hurt someone’s feelings x
Couldn’t agree that it is important to be yourself but it’s also important to adjust your character traits if it hurts other people. This is is just the way I am not always can be an excuse.